10 reasons why you're getting rejected. Reason 10.

Reason 10: Body language and physical contact.


This is as important as anything else. No one likes someone who comes on too fast, unless you’re just looking for a real good time tonight. However, no one likes a cold fish either. Men and women are both responsible for the amount and frequency of physical contact and the kind of body language they show. These things give us a clue to the kind of person you’re talking to, as well as how interested they are.

 

This is about listening, observing and responding. When we slowly ease our way closer to someone, it shows interest without being overzealous. This is the green light for both men and women. If the person you’re with is doing this and you’re interested, it’s time to reciprocate.

 

Something else that’s important to note is how nervous the person is feeling. Both men and women get nervous, but if you can tell the person likes you, and you’re interested in the type of person they are you will only stand to benefit by helping them relax and open up.

 

We always like others who make us feel more comfortable, so by helping someone come out of their shell will likely increase their attraction for you!

 

A lot of success can be had by listening and paying attention to people. A lot of times we give out signals that give simple hints as to how well things are going. Also, a lot of rejection and bad moments can be avoided if we simply communicate more, are more receptive, as well as supportive of the person we’re with. Think how it feels to be on the opposite side of the situation. A little encouragement can go a long way!

 

Above all relax, and have fun. When you’re having a good times, others want to join the fun!

After all, be cool. B)

p/s: There are still plenty of them, and there is more to life. :)

10 reasons why you're getting rejected. Reason 9.

Reason 9: Lost opportunity.


This happens when we’re too scared or nervous to approach or make our intentions known to the person. This can be with someone we haven’t met, or someone we have known for a long time. But a HUGE reason for not finding someone is because it’s so much easier to chicken out, and walk away rather than put ourselves on the line and make an approach.

This is not something that just happens once in a while. It happens more often than not. Think 80% of the time or more. It’s no surprise women don’t approach as much as men. It’s just easier to let men do the approaching. We already expect and teach men to approach. So if a woman doesn’t have a date, it’s because men aren’t approaching anymore.

BUT ON THE BRIGHT SIDE, things have changes and women are now starting to realize missed opportunities by relying on men to take the initiative. And if you think about it, if men and women are both asking each other out with high frequency everyone would have a lot more opportunities to find someone. So even though it doesn’t feel like it at the moment. A rejection is often better than an opportunity lost. You can’t always win, but at least you tried!

Sorry, no opportunity. at all, anymore.

p/s: What are you waiting for, move on!

10 reasons why you're getting rejected. Reason 8.

Reason 8: You're just not their type.



You’re just not their type. We all have some sort of preference when it comes to the type of person we find attractive, that’s no secret. Women typically prefer men to be tall, or taller than they are (6 foot is a common desire for a man’s height).

Men are typically attracted to a woman with curved or an hour glass shape. Now the size of those curves can vary from individual to individual, but most men agree to finding attraction in those curves.

BUT ON THE BRIGHT SIDE, there are a whole host of other things we find attractive in others. Many of these things you can’t do much about, while others we do have some control over.

Sorry, you're not my type. Lalala~

p/s: Who f*cking cares then?

10 reasons why you're getting rejected. Reason 7.

Reason 7: Bad timing!


Sometimes the timing just isn't good. The person may appear very attractive at first glance but could be having a lot of problems that day or just at that particular point in their life. This is definitely not a good time to start a relationship.

BUT ON THE BRIGHT SIDE, not only are they not ready for you, and the relationship, but you shouldn't be too eager about starting one with someone in this situation either.

Arrrrrr! Wrong timing!

p/s: How could we possibly catch the timing right? Sigh.

10 reasons why you're getting rejected. Reason 6.

Reason 6: They are taken!


BUT ON THE BRIGHT SIDE, not much you can do in this situation. Sometimes the person you desire is already in a relationship. If you really liked the person your best bet would be to honestly get to know them as a friend.

Sorry, taken! >:D

p/s: Why wander chasing someone else' partner?

10 reasons why you're getting rejected. Reason 5.

Reason 5: Desperation.

This comes as no surprise. Desperation turns everyone off, men and women. When desperate you’re more inclined to do whatever it takes to succeed. The qualities men and women find attractive in each other typically spell out a person who is in a situation to have or find many options, which is the exact opposite of desperate.

Desperation usually has the tendency to give someone a lack of confidence, extreme nervousness, being too nice (remember the nice guy?), and appear less attractive (among many other things. On the other side many overcompensate for these short comings, and this also is a turn off. When you’re at a place in your life where you’re happy and enjoying yourself people naturally enjoy being with you, because they want a taste.

If you’re feeling down because life is too harsh without a man or woman in your life, this will naturally bring others down as well.

BUT ON THE BRIGHT SIDE, learning about yourself and doing what makes you happy goes far beyond dating advice, it’s something that will enrich your whole life as well as those around you!

Desperate, am I?

p/s: Yes, I am desperate, even desperation leads to failure.

10 reasons why you're getting rejected. Reason 4.

Reason 4: The initiative.

Taking the initiative is something women always complain men don’t do enough of. Women want you to step up to the plate, have been paying attention, and make a good solid decision. Women want a leader, not a follower, and a good leader can make decisions as well as listen to the group, and show them that their input is valuable. The other side of this is being receptive and encouraging this behavior.

Like all things if someone is positive, receptive and encourages you to do well, you’ll put your best foot forward. The same holds true for men in this instance. If you find that men don’t take enough initiative then you should encourage them to do so.

Many men like to feel that they are doing right by their family. They want to support their women, and know they are steering the ship, and doing a good job. Now while a captain is important on a ship, what use is he without his crew?

So, if you want your man to take more initiative, you should be more receptive and supportive to it. People are only human and make mistakes. So when he leads and doesn’t get things right, you can still let him know you had a good time, while making sure he knows what you like and would want to try in the future.

Communication is key. When a leader, and those they lead are in constant communication, they are well aware of each other’s needs. This allows the captain to make well informed choices, and also allows the crew to support him even when his choices are not perfect.

BUT ON THE BRIGHT SIDE, if you find yourself getting angry or upset at men, when their leadership skills fall short, do you really expect him to get back up and do a better job? Remember, leadership (and initiative) is not just about the captain, but the ability of captain and crew to work well together, and have a balanced relationship.

Being initative.

p/s: But it's time to face the truth, I will never be with you.

10 reasons why you're getting rejected. Reason 3.

Reason 3: Being direct, or lack of.

Being too direct can definitely be a problem. Women enjoy subtlety and being teased. If you’re too direct it can be off putting and appear too cocky or arrogant. Give a woman the time to consider the possibility before you step to the plate.

It may not always be best to immediately say how attractive you find a woman, and then ask for her number so you can take her out. She’s literally had no time to think about it, and you haven’t really left her with anything. So guess what? You will be getting a fake number, or none at all.

You want to have a light, humorous conversation. It always leaves a great impression when you have a conversation with someone you just met, and the two of you just click. This would be an ideal time to ask for a number or some way to contact her so you can get together some time.

You’ve already established some level of comfort and at this point things could lead to a friendship or something more. So it will leave her guessing.

A lack of directness can be something that women are at fault of. Things are always best when they follow a natural flow. But if the man you’re interested in isn’t quite following you, it will only help to clue him in. Sure a bit of subtlety and teasing is wonderful.

BUT ON THE BRIGHT SIDE, if a man doesn’t meat your expectations because he isn’t aware of them, he’s more likely reject you. He may very well have love what you had in mind, but if you want him to read your mind, you’re better off calling the psychic hotline.

Too direct, please.

p/s: Me myself sometimes too direct too, though.

10 reasons why you're getting rejected. Reason 2.

Reason 2: Nice guys finish last.

We have all heard this before. But what does it mean? If you’re thinking you have to be a jerk to get women’s attention, then you’ve missed the boat. Don’t worry ladies. This message applies to you as well. Nice in this context means someone who is too nice, a pushover.

Someone like this will do for others always before themselves and thus relationships are unbalanced. They are always the giver and never give an opportunity for others to give. These people also often choose needy people to interact with because they feel better about themselves by giving.

There needs to be balance. Women won’t respect a man who they can walk all over, and without respect there won’t be any chemistry. We’ve seen this happen many times before. There’s a guy who’s very generous and good to his friends and family, wonderful father, but for some reason the wife isn’t satisfied and wants to find someone else.

Giving only goes so far and if both aren’t giving, then things will fall out of balance. It’s only natural to take advantage of and abuse things when they make themselves too readily available. When was the last time you were thankful for a breath of air?

What does this mean for women? How can women be too nice? It’s great to laugh at a man’s jokes and make him feel like a man, but there is such a thing as too much.

BUT ON THE BRIGHT SIDE, by giving a man everything and always being the giver, you may become his bread ad butter. But, eventually he’s going to say, “where’s the beef?”

Nice guy? Not me. Attack!!

p/s: Yes, I'm a jerk for hurting so many girls out there before, and now started to feel the KARMA.

10 reasons why you're getting rejected. Reason 1.

Reason 1: Too outspoken.

Now honesty is a great thing, in small bites. Think about your daily interactions and how things might go if you were 100% honest every minute of the day? Not pretty is it? But at the same time I’m not suggesting you to lie to people either.

We just have to be careful about what we say, and how much we say. Typically a person who talks on and on about themselves will be a turn off to BOTH MEN AND WOMEN. This also applies to being too crude or critical about others.

BUT ON THE BRIGHT SIDE, it always comes across between when you try and put a positive spin on things. Cheer up. :)

Too outspoken?

p/s: Never let yourself be too outspoken, to anyone. Keep it quiet, keep it real. :)

10 reasons why you're getting rejected.

Hello there peeps, there are a wide variety of reasons why people get rejected. For the most part there is a large overlap between why men and women reject each other. Of course men and women are not identical, but we are VERY, VERY similar.

Women don’t like to be treated like a piece of meat, that is sexually, just like men don’t like to be treated like a piece of meat either, that is marriage. Now of course these 2 things are important and heavily desired by men and women, but we all want to feel like the person wants us, more than the goal of sex or marriage.

BUT ON THE BRIGHT SIDE, here are some posts about the major reasons why people are getting rejected. Enjoy. :)

Rejects = Frustration

p/s: I wrote this for being rejected, yet again, today. :)

Selamat menyambut ulangtahun Kemerdekaan ke-54.

Geng, BUT ON THE BRIGHT SIDE, ini post sangat patriotik, kononnya. Hee. Harap2nya lah. Selamat menyambut ulangtahun kemerdekaan negara kita ke-54. Wuhyo lagi tua daripada org tua gua lah geng!

MAARDEKA! MAARDEKA! MAARDEKA!

p/s: Cintailah negara kita, jadi patriotik tak pelik pun. :P

Ramadhan here we come!

p/s: Selamat menyambut bulan Ramadhan yg penuh dgn keberkatan dan kemuliaan, diharap semua dapat menjalankan ibadah puasa dgn penuh keimanan. Akhir kata, selamat beramal! :)

Top 5 reason to say "I Love You.", Reason 5.

Reason 5: When you have no fear about loving fully.

The last but not least of our reasons as it is, indeed, the most important one. The very REASON why you would NOT say "I Love You". "I Love You" put you in the greatest space of vulnerability. Each time you allow yourself to declare "I Love You" to another, you say: I am giving of myself.

Unless you know that you can give without counting because you receive from a limitless source, it is very frightening to let yourself be emptied.

BUT ON THE BRIGHT SIDE, first and foremost, make sure that you don't fear love so that you can soulfully and unconditionally say "I Love You".

I will love you, for the rest of my life.

p/s: I Love You. Enjoy the video. :))

Top 5 reason to say "I Love You.", Reason 4.

Reason 4: When what you do says "I Love You" even without words.

No words will ever been able to come close to the actions that embody their meanings. Especially when it comes to love. Love is such a complex but yet simple blessing at the same time that only deeds can illustrate it in the greatest way.

There are an infinite way to show your love. Each time you share your love through actions, you say "I Love You" much louder than the words themselves. Yet the mind somehow remains attached to words.

BUT ON THE BRIGHT SIDE, you sure know how to illustrate an "I Love You" so that you can give it to another dimension.

I still love you and my hobbies.

p/s: I Love You.

Top 5 reason to say "I Love You.", Reason 3.

Reason 3: When you care enough that your beloved knows it.

Your beloved is the cherished one who is the ultimate "recipient". Caring for another is one thing. Caring for another to know that you love her or him is something special.

It takes you out of your comfort zone. It demands your heart to be exposed. As it can be a leap of faith to you, realize that it can also represent a great deal for your companion.

BUT ON THE BRIGHT SIDE, a relationship has little chance to blossom unless the subject of love, in its deepest sense has been brought forth especially when you feel ready to say "I Love You".

 Careful, luv.

p/s: I Love You.

Top 5 reason to say "I Love You.", Reason 2.

Reason 2: When you know what love means to you.

Words are so powerful that when you share them, they become an imprint of your life into the heart of another. Be careful with words as their echo change the giver and the receiver forever.

Make sure that whenever you share an "I Love You", you fully understand what it means to you so that you can always clarify its meaning in the most accurate way.

BUT ON THE BRIGHT SIDE, even the concept in itself remains unfathomable.

 I like love you.

p/s: I Love You.

Top 5 reason to say "I Love You.", Reason 1.

Reason 1: When you feel it within your soul.

Love is such an existential subject that saying "I Love You" must come from the same place love emanates. A place where existence and presence melt as one within the body. The soul which knows love as home is the most authentic space from which an "I Love You" can be offered.

When it is given from the soul, love presents the greatest sense of freedom and the purest sense of kindness. Put your beloved in your heart and envision yourself saying "I Love You".

BUT ON THE BRIGHT SIDE, if he or she belongs there, then "I Love You" also does.

I see you in my heart.

p/s: I Love You.

3 reasons to be a teacher, Reason 3.

Geng, entry blog kali ni dipost adalah sebagai satu review ala-ala "Kalaulah gua tidak menjadi seorg jurutera pada hari ini, tentu gua akan menjadi seorg ..........". Selain drpd seorg arkitek, businessman, pemain bola sepak, pelumba kereta dan bermacam-macam lagi, kalau gua tidak menjadi seorg jurutera, gua mungkin menjadi seorg GURU.

Kenapa gua memilih utk menjadi seorg guru? Kerana dgn menjadi seorg guru bermakna kita membantu dan membimbing anak2 murid utk mencari minat serta mereka yg tersendiri serta memupuk mereka utk mencapai tahap potensi mereka yg sebenar.

BUT ON THE BRIGHT SIDE, secara tidak langsung, anda telah mencipta masa hadapan! Tak bagus ke geng? Bagus beb!

Bangga beb kalau dapat membentuk masa hadapan anak bangsa!

p/s: Walaupun kebenarannya gua bukanlah seorg guru, tapi gua mungkin tetap akan mencari pasangan di kalangan guru, utk berkongsi pengalaman hidup! :P

3 reasons to be a teacher, Reason 2.

Geng, entry blog kali ni dipost adalah sebagai satu review ala-ala "Kalaulah gua tidak menjadi seorg jurutera pada hari ini, tentu gua akan menjadi seorg ..........". Selain drpd seorg arkitek, businessman, pemain bola sepak, pelumba kereta dan bermacam-macam lagi, kalau gua tidak menjadi seorg jurutera, gua mungkin menjadi seorg GURU.

Kenapa gua memilih utk menjadi seorg guru? Kerana dgn menjadi seorg guru, kehidupan dan cara kerja anda setiap hari mungkin akan berubah2. Hari ni mungkin anda perlu menjadi seorg pendidik dan pembimbing, esok lusa anda mungkin pula perlu menjadi seperti seorg psychologist, paramedic, tech support, pelakon, ahli meditasi, pengurus, jurulatih, pembantu peribadi, mahupun pekerja sosial.

BUT ON THE BRIGHT SIDE, semua ini hanyalah semata2 demi memastikan didikan yg diberikan terhadap anak2 murid adalah sempurna dan membentuk masa hadapan mereka. Jadi geng, dah tentu2nya hidup anda tidak akan pernah bosan sekiranya menjadi seorg guru, kan? Hahah.

Melatih budak2 mengenai Pendidikan Jasmani? Memang gua suka!

p/s: Kadang2, kita perlu keluar drpd 'zon keselesaan diri' supaya tidak bosan dgn kehidupan yg hampir sama setiap hari. MUAK!